Today I want to share with you a true-story about a friend who was placed in a hard situation and needed to make some brave decisions. I hope by sharing her story (with her permission of course!) you’ll feel inspired to make some tough choices in order to live a life you love, by remembering don’t let fear hold you back:
One of my inner circle is pregnant…
She is 36 years old. A few years ago, her then fiance decided 6 weeks before their wedding to call it all off. He wanted them to stay together, but he did not want to get married. Her heart was broken. She took the very brave decision to end the relationship.
On what would have been her wedding day, her closest friends gathered round and took her out to attempt to laugh, attempt not to cry, but regardless, most definitely drink the hours away. All I can say is, my girl done good. There are not many who would have been able to style it out as well as she did that day.
One of the hardest things was she was settled – up until he dropped the bomb…
She was on her chosen course; marriage, home, babies. All by the time she was in her early 30’s. But it was not to be. Not only had she lost the love of her life, she saw her chances of having a child diminish. She felt that her window of opportunity to meet ‘the one’, get married, buy a house and have a baby, was looking more and more narrow.
She had a fling with a very hot guy, but inevitably it was not to last and in amongst, she managed to purchase her first home on her own (no guy required). Then, as fate would have it, she went out with another friend and happened to meet the man she eventually ended up marrying (in a castle no less) last year. I should know, I was there. Fast forward 12 more months and today, I got to go to her baby shower.
I do not doubt, if we told her on the day that she was originally supposed to get married – this is what her life would eventually lead her too – she would have been more than pleased with her tough decision to walk away.
At the time it would have been very easy for her to have stayed with him, caved to his whining and indecision, because at least they would be together. But, she knew if she did, she would spend the rest of her life giving in to him. If he wasn’t ready now, would he ever really be?
She didn’t know how life would turn out….
She had to take a massive step into the unknown, alone. But she knew she owed it to herself to not be treated this way. She didn’t let fear hold her back.
I truly believe others can’t love you unless you learn to love yourself first. To stay in a relationship where you are not treated as you should is not loving yourself.
We don’t know what life holds in store for us. Sometimes when we see our dreams slipping away, we panic and make rash choices. It would be great to know the future and feel confident when we make a scary decision it will end up being a great choice. Wouldn’t that be lovely?
But until that time, please dear friend, don’t let fear hold you back…
From some of our darkest moments come some of our brightest opportunities. All you need to do is love and respect yourself, have faith and own your own story.
Don’t let self-sabotage hold you back either! Read: Stopping Self-Sabotage – How to break the habit.
I hope you found Don’t let fear hold you back (and in particular, my friend’s story helpful), especially if you’re facing anything similar in your life. Have you had to make any tough decisions recently? Remember to always seek support from your family and friends – you don’t have to be alone in your decision making. If you need support outside of your network consider calling The Samaritans. You can visit their website here. As always, I’d love to hear from you – leave me a comment in the box below.