I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching this week; digging quite deep to discover what my purpose really is. When I started this exercise I thought I knew what it was, but the more I’ve taken guidance & really started to reflect, the more I’ve realised how unclear I’ve actually been.
Which I’ve now come to understand is a big reason why I ended 2019 a bit disappointed. Yes, I had a good year & there was much to feel grateful for, but I wasn’t where I had seen myself being. I can now appreciate where I went wrong.
My biggest error was not being clear on what I wanted…
It’s like approaching a McDonald’s drive-thru & not giving your order. The likelihood of them giving you exactly what you want when you reach the next window is next to no chance. Alright, you’ve got something but it wasn’t really what you wanted to drive away with. (Mines a quarter-pounder with cheese, fries & a diet-coke, in case you’re interested.)
This year (as I spoke about in January Well-being Focus: Purpose) I’m getting clear on where I want to be by the time the Champagne bottle pops on New Years Eve 2020. I appreciate that might be a tall ask – I am a bit of a big-dreamer – but I at least want to end this year full of the benefits of starting it with a clear purpose.
So as I said, I’ve been doing a lot of research into this and there’s one piece of learning I want to share with you before I share the all-important questions to help you find your purpose.
One key bit of advice for when you’ve found your purpose…
Finding your purpose is fantastic for a whole bunch of reasons. It’s going to give you focus, motivation, increased self-worth – ultimately it’s going to connect you with a life you’ll feel much joy living.
However, just because you’ve worked out what your purpose is it doesn’t mean you’ll immediately understand all the steps to take to achieve it.
But there is good news, as Jack Canfield, America’s #1 success coach & co-creator of ‘Chicken Soup For The Soul’ explains, we all have an inner guidance system. This ‘personal GPS’ if you will, will help guide us from where we currently are to where we want to be.
“Once you clarify and then stay focused on your vision, the exact steps will keep appearing along the way in the form of internal guidance, creating ideas, and new opportunities.”
Sounds good right? I think so! But in order for this to work, you first need to be clear about what you want!
Life’s big questions…
I’ve pulled together a list of questions* I’ve been answering to work out my own purpose and put it into this downloadable worksheet for you. Clear some time (& find some peace) in order to work through it.
Find Your Purpose WorksheetPurpose-Worksheet-2
Good to know: There’s no pressure to discover all the answers in one sitting. I recommend reading the questions through, going off for a walk or a bath or something. Have a little ponder before coming back to answer them fully. For question 2 you might find it helpful to ask trusted friends their opinion. Their insight might be eye-opening to you. I was surprised by what my friends said about me!
Going forward with purpose…
I hope this exercise is helpful to you & it leads you to find your purpose. If you’ve managed to outline your dreams & really visualised a life which sees you living them, you’ll no doubt experience that spark of joy & excitement within your belly. For me, it’s been the highlight of this whole process. Please don’t feel a dream is too big or too late, the only limits lie in your mindset. If you don’t try you’ll never know, so go for it!
Good luck everyone!
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Do let me know how you get on with the worksheet or if you have any questions you think I might be able to help with. If I can’t answer them I can always point you in the right direction! Have you ever tried anything similar? Any hints or advice you can offer? Whatever you’d like to say, I’d love to hear it, simply enter your comment in the box below