Please join me in welcoming my friend Sunna from lifestyle blog – Inspired in the City – to Living.Pretty.Happy today. As part of involvement month, she’s kindly sharing some great tips on helping to reduce wedding planning stress! I sure could have done with these when I was planning my own wedding 15-years ago! Over to you, Sunna…
As a newly engaged happy couple, your head is in the clouds. Every friend and family member wants to make plans to grab a celebratory drink together and hear about the proposal in great detail. Every day is filled with congratulations and happiness.
So, when you finally sit down to start the real wedding planning, it can knock you back down to Earth with a bit of a thud. Where do you even begin with an event so large and so important? How will you ever afford it? With so many difficult questions to consider, it is easy to start feeling stressed.
Having begun my own wedding planning journey earlier this year, I know first hand how stressful it can be and how many arguments it can cause.
Planning your big day will always be a challenge but there are plenty of ways to help you make the process a little less daunting and a lot more fun!
Here are four of my best tips for making wedding planning less stressful:
01. Follow A Checklist
Take the confusion out of planning by using an online checklist. There are so many amazing websites that break down the whole process for you so that all you have to do is follow along. Before you know it, you’re well on the way to planning your wedding.
I highly recommend using Bridebook. Both you and your partner can create your own logins for your free account and use their service to check-off each step as well as save ideas, work out budgets and search for venues and suppliers – all on this one free website!
If you’re not a fan of making things digital, simply head to your favourite stationery shop and browse their collection of wedding planning diaries. Keeping a record of your process and ticking it all off feels very therapeutic and helps you feel more in control.
02. Let It Go
Generally speaking, us women can be a little over-controlling when it comes to our big day. From creating an army of Pinterest boards to overruling our partner on their thoughts and ideas, we can turn into a bit of a monster without realising it. We don’t mean to do it, but we end up taking over for fear that if we let our partner get involved, they’ll get it “wrong”.
Not only is this unfair – after all, a wedding is supposed to be about both of you – but you will also burn yourself out by trying to manage every little detail. If you truly want your wedding to be the best day of both of your lives, then you need them to be just as happy with the decisions as you are.
Learn to let go. Relinquish your controlling side and delegate tasks between the both of you so that they feel involved and invested, and so that neither of you are overworking yourselves.
Need some help in letting go of control? Read: How to manage a fear of losing control
03. Get Creative
One of the biggest sources of stress when it comes to weddings is finances. If you’re not careful, you’ll run away with your budget and will be overcharged for things that you could have found cheaper elsewhere.
Even if you have saved up a big budget for your wedding already, there are so many hidden and unexpected costs that pop up along the way, so I strongly advise that you still aim to be very wary with your spending.
One of the biggest ways to save is to get creative with DIY décor or invites. There is a wealth of inspiration online so there is no excuse! If you’re not a very creative person, speak to friends and family members – chances are that someone will be able to help.
For our wedding, we are using our combined skills of writing and design to create our own bespoke invites. On top of this, our friends and family will be helping us create wedding favours, my sister will kindly sing at the ceremony, and we are using our contacts to get deals on our cake and photography. Where there is a will, there is a way!
04. Take A Break
It can seem like you need to do everything at once to get things sorted and booked on time, but no one can work at full speed without ending up tired and stressed. When you find yourself snapping at each other or getting particularly worked up when you shouldn’t be, then it’s a sign that you need a night off.
Plan to have a weekend free of wedding talk and spend some fun, quality time together so that you are refreshed and rejuvenated to pick up the planning at a later date.
It’s also a good idea to avoid bombarding your partner throughout the day via text and email to talk weddings. They’ll be busy at work and it’s very distracting to try to focus on your day job and your wedding at the same time.
When you get in from work, allow some time to relax before jumping straight in again. Get planning at an agreed time – for example, after dinner – when you’re both in a better headspace for it, which will help you to avoid unnecessary arguments.
I hope these tips are as useful to you as they have been for me. Please do share any of your own tips with me too in the comments below.
Happy wedding planning!
4 Tips to Reduce Wedding Planning Stress was written by Sunna Naseer.
Sunna Naseer is a lifestyle blogger at Inspired in the City where she shares inspiring and thought-provoking content on a range of topics from fashion and food to travel and culture.
She is part of London collective, Bloggers Inspired, an ambitious group of individuals working together to turn their blogs into businesses. Find out more about Sunna here and visit the Bloggers Inspired page for more tips or to register your interest in joining.
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So are you getting married soon? How is the wedding planning going? Are you already married? Would these tips have come in handy for you to reduce wedding planning stress? Do you have any top tips of your own to share? Get in touch & let us know via the comments box below. I don’t have any to add for the planning, but for the actual day, I would offer this – be in the moment, really take it all in, it’s over in a flash, but the memories will be yours for a lifetime.